August 24, 2014

A Serious Discussion About Safewords

Posted in notes tagged , , at 5:19 pm by littlesubmissions

Many people introduce safewords into their kinky activities. A safeword is, essentially, a prearranged signal to end or slow down an activity. Think of it as a code word that differentiates fun (or at least consensual) pain or discomfort from un-fun (or non-consensual) pain or discomfort. The use of safe words allows the partner doing the hitting to know that the other party is enjoying things without asking them if their screams of “OWWWWWWWWWW FUCK!” are a compliment on technique or an expression of a heartfelt need to stop the current activity.

The most common safewords are based on traffic signals, typically “Red” (stop immediately), “Yellow” (don’t stop but slow down and proceed with caution), and “Green” (go ahead). This may cause awkward arousal during a driver’s license exam, but is generally still common practice. There are variations, such as giving someone a rubber ball when they are gagged. If the person needs to use a safeword in such a situation, they let go of the ball.

However, such safeword variations are often assigned only out of necessity, and only for a single scenario or circumstance. It is the thesis of the current post that the BDSM community could benefit from a wider variety of safewords to indicate more unusual, but still critical, indications of circumstances which might occur during a scene but not be readily obvious to one’s partner.

Therefore, the following safewords are suggested as additions to the traditional Red/Yellow/Green safewords. For simplicity’s sake, the traditional scheme of using colors has been retained. Individuals prone to screaming out the names of crayons during scenes may wish to use the names of fish instead to avoid confusion. Individuals aroused by Haddock are advised to stick to the traditional color scheme words, unless their partner has been forewarned. Remember, consent is a two way street people. Nobody likes having their ears non-consensually filled with fish words.

With these caveats in mind, we hereby present the…

EXPANDED LIST OF BDSM SAFEWORDS

Red: Stop.
Yellow: Slow down.
Green: Go.
Blue: Shit, I forget to set the DVR for Game of Thrones! Get this blindfold off and give me the remote right now!
Lime: I just saw your DVD collection and we need to end this right now and never see each other again. I try to be open minded, but owning the remake of “The Wicker Man” is where I draw the line.
Black: Wow, black boots, oh my god that’s so original, you’re totally turning me on with your banality and lack of imagination regarding footwear. You must have put entire seconds of thought into that. No, really, my underwear just exploded into flames.
Aquamarine: Your BDSM playlist sucks and if I have to listen to one more god-damn asshole who thinks they’re being original by playing the theme to True Blood I’m going to non-consensually choke a fucker.
Brown: Are you sure you want to do anal? Because I ate a hell of a lot of bran fiber this morning.
Teal: We can do that, but if I have to steam clean this carpet to get my deposit back you’re paying for it.
Brushed Silver: I’ve been bad, take me to Target and make me buy picture frames!
Avocado: Avocado would be really good on tacos. We should go get some tacos when we’re done. And put avocado on them. Can we call the scene and just get some tacos? I’ve got an avocado and I know a place.
Mauve: How about you dial the pretentious monologue back a little bit there, super-domme.
Brick: This is great and all, but I need to get some shit done in Skyrim. Could you hand me the Xbox Controller? Don’t worry, I can do both at once.
Khaki: Giggle break. May also be used for “Fifty bucks, same as in town! Hah, I just got that.”
Coral: Ow ow ow! Toe cramp, toe cramp, toe cramp!
Cyan: And I just remembered I told the realtor they could come by and show the house today. How quick can you untie these knots?

In addition, sometimes when using safewords it can be beneficial to have a series of signals that can note when a situation is fine at first, but may change if the activity continues or escalates. As in the following examples:

Lavender: Are you sure the door is latched?
Plum: Because the cat just entered the room.
Purple: And the cat looks interested.
Violet: And the cat has now entered the scene. This feels weird. Mr. Mittens cannot provide informed consent, give me a minute to put him in the bathroom with some fuzzy toys and a treat.

Pink: Counting the hits is giving me weird Sesame Street flashbacks.
Chiffon: And I think I kind of like it.
Crimson: TELL ME WHY SHARING IS GOOD AND BEAT ME LIKE A RENTED SNUFFLEUPAGUS!

Of course there are countless more. Feel free to leave some of your own suggestions in the comments, and remember to always play safe.

Copyright Jerry Jones. Unauthorized use is prohibited.

May 28, 2014

Winding Down

Posted in notes tagged at 6:10 am by littlesubmissions

Hello all,

So, the hiatus has gone on longer than planned, but I’m mostly writing other things these days. I do have six five stories that I submitted for publication and didn’t get accepted that I’m going to put up over the next month and a half or so (one per week). So look for those on Wednesdays, and then it’ll probably go back to being quiet for awhile.

Thanks for reading,
V.

“When you turned out the light and walked out the door,
I said to myself, “What did I come here for?”
-Concrete Blonde, “Long Time Ago

February 5, 2014

Hiatus

Posted in notes at 2:30 pm by littlesubmissions

Hi all,

Going on hiatus until I figure out what I want to do with this blog. Thanks for reading.

-V.

December 20, 2013

Guillotine Penis

Posted in notes at 6:53 am by littlesubmissions

For whoever found this blog by searching for guillotine penis: The British television show Coupling actually has a penis guillotine. It’s also funny as hell, and I forget which exact episode, but I highly recommend it.

I recommend Coupling that is, not penis guillotining.

http://www.imdb.com/title/tt0237123/?ref_=fn_al_tt_1

-V.

December 7, 2013

Top 100 Sex Bloggers of 2013

Posted in notes tagged , at 12:32 pm by littlesubmissions

I am #15 on the Top 100 Sex Bloggers of 2013!

Thanks to Rori of Between My Sheets for putting together the list, which can be viewed at http://www.betweenmysheets.com/top-100-sex-bloggers-of-2013#, to Appy, Argentum, and Lillith for nominating this blog, and everyone for reading.

-Vague

November 19, 2013

Thank Yous!

Posted in notes tagged , , at 6:48 am by littlesubmissions

Thank you to Pearl for her very kind review at:

http://www.omisspearl.com/nonfiction/review-little-submissions-collected-short-stories-pt-1

Thank you to the people who bought the book, it is genuinely appreciated.

And thanks to everyone who reads, comments, and follows. 🙂

-V.

November 17, 2013

Unfortunate Searches

Posted in notes tagged , , at 7:24 am by littlesubmissions

To the person who found this blog by searching for nipple torcher.

Frickin’ ouch. And I’m not sure if I’m more worried that you got consent for that, or that someone did consent to that. Either way, frickin’ ouch.

October 31, 2013

Bonus Story

Posted in notes at 6:04 pm by littlesubmissions

The folks over at the Erotica Readers & Writers Association published one of my stories, “Heroes and Villains.”

Follow the link to see it:

http://www.erotica-readers.com/GD/S/Heroes_and_Villains.htm

-V.

September 26, 2013

…and now we’re on Smashwords.

Posted in notes tagged at 8:36 pm by littlesubmissions

As the Swedish chef might say, “Book book book!”

Usual disclaimer, nothing new in here, just a collection of short stories from the blog. Basically a way to throw me a gallon of gas or a sammich. Thanks for your support. It’s been “Premium approved,” which I believe means you won’t die if you download it.

https://www.smashwords.com/books/view/359009

-V.

September 19, 2013

Who Loves You Baby?

Posted in notes tagged , , at 7:11 am by littlesubmissions

Epub format for everyone who loves the Nook, or the not Amazon format.

http://www.lulu.com/shop/jerry-jones/little-submissions-collected-short-stories-volume-1/ebook/product-21212090.html

…and just to reiterate, nothing new in this volume. Just old stories with some edits.

-V.

PS: If anyone downloads a copy and notices formatting errors or problems, please leave a comment or email me at vaguely.defined@gmail.com Thanks much!

September 16, 2013

The Book, or I Finally Broke Down and Did It

Posted in notes tagged , , , , at 6:42 am by littlesubmissions

Hello all,

So, I published a book of collected short stories from this blog on Amazon Kindle. I want to stress that there is NO NEW CONTENT in this book. I totally recycled stories posted on here, cleaned them up a little (at… one… point… I… really… liked… ellipses…) compiled them, and put them on Amazon.

I’m working on a dead tree Lulu version, but this was the quickest and easiest to do, so it got done first. If there’s any other platform people are dying for (I’ll probably do Smashwords, for non-Kindle e-reader users), let me know and I’ll consider it. As much as I’d love to cater to every niche publisher and hardware configuration, any time I’m formatting is time I’m not writing.

So if you want to support the blog, desperately need forty-four of the stories with a quick proof-read and minor corrections, or just have more money than you know what to do with, here’s the link:

http://www.amazon.com/dp/B00F833QYQ

Yeah, I’m never going to make it as a salesman, but whatcha gonna do?

Thanks,
-Jerry Jones, V.

September 14, 2013

Top Sex Bloggers of 2013!

Posted in notes tagged , , at 7:04 am by littlesubmissions

I are nominated and stuff! Thanks Appy and Argentum!

Hi all,

If anyone would care to nominate me for the list of 100 top sex bloggers of 2013, I would appreciate it. Just go over to

http://www.betweenmysheets.com/2013-nominations

and include my URL in your comment, which is:

https://littlesubmissions.wordpress.com

Thanks much!

July 1, 2013

Quick Housekeeping Note

Posted in notes at 7:06 pm by littlesubmissions

Hi all. Welcome to everyone who found their way here from reddit, and thanks to everyone who sent the occasional email or encouraging comment while I wasn’t writing much. Life has settled down considerably and I’m starting to feel back on track with writing.

If you haven’t, or even if you have, feel free to say hello in the comments. Or I’m Vague on fetlife (although I do very, very little on fetlife).

Most of all, thanks for reading.

-V.

October 14, 2010

All Right, Let’s Talk Deal

Posted in notes tagged at 4:00 am by littlesubmissions

Greetings loyal readers:

I think I’ve figured out a way we can both get something out of this blog. You want to read the sort of thing I write, I want to become popular enough to sell out and retire.

Well, eventually. I also want to write more popular stuff. What I write is a niche of a niche. Most people seem more interested in female domination fantasy than what I see as the (healthy) reality.

So, couple of options. One, I start writing the fantasy. Make up story names with “Blackmail” in the title, do forced feminization, strapon sex, write about chateaus and Baroness’ with armies of specially trained lobotomized robot sex eunuchs. Ponytails, lots of ponytails. Problem is, even that isn’t going to make me rich.

If I’m going to sell out, I’m going to sell out big.

So the other option is, write genre fiction, which has a broader audience, and keep the female domination relationship content. Anita Blake does quite well financially writing her particular version of vampire genre porn. Better than I do at least.

Problem is, that requires plot, structure, dialogue, things like that. You know, book stuff. Maybe even character development. I pretty much write sex stories. Sex stories are a giant cheat in a lot of literary problem areas. I need my readers to identify with a character. Well, my characters want to have sex. If my readers are reading my stuff, they’re probably thinking that way themselves. I need conflict. Okay, my character wants an orgasm. I need resolution. Fine, they resolve themselves into a wet spot on the sheets. You get the idea.

Did you know that when I started writing this blog, I liked to gag the male character because it made it easier to write dialogue? True story.

So I need to practice writing books. With plots. And stuff.

Gonna need feedback on that.

Wanna know one of the secrets of being a writer? Everyone wants feedback, hardly anyone ever wants to give it. And unless your friend is the rare person who will tell you when you’ve just shit a load of toner on a dead tree and need to go back to the drawing board, friends don’t make the best feedback audience. They’ve already probably got a lot of the same interests as you, and are more likely to see the good in your story.

You need angry, liquored up stranger feedback if you want to get better.

That which does not kill you might just teach you noun-pronoun agreement.

So I have this book I started. I figure I’ll put it on here, a chapter at a time as I get them done. These chapters will be longer than my usual stories, and I’ll probably try for one a week and hit one every other week (realistically). They will be connected to each other.

When the book is done, I’ll compile it into one big book and self-publish through lulu or some other PoD. I’m also going to offer electronic versions, because some of my favorite readers are overseas. I’d be glad to sell them dead tree versions as well, but I know international shipping can be brutal, and customs officers are a fickle lot. I want them to be able to get a copy if they want one.

I figure sales figures are as good a form of feedback as any. And if they’re good, they buy me beer. Bonus.

So that’s the plan. Might change, nothing is written in stone. But I’m going to drop the first chapter of the book I was working on in after I post this. It’s largely been done before, I was going to use it as an opening chapter / prologue.

Feel free to comment, it’s always welcome. Hopefully this will keep me interested and motivated to keep writing. The first book will just be porn. The second I’m hoping to do more genre fiction with a female domination… thing… thrown in. They say a writer needs to read and write, so that’s what I’m going to do.

Oh, the other possibility which has come up is audio recordings of the stuff I’ve written so far. I ain’t reading them, but I might have a lady (my own ma’am actually) who is willing to give it a try and see how it works out. I’d probably sell those at 99 cents apiece, if anyone is interested. Mostly as a means of just giving people a way to throw some money my way if they felt like it, but I need to look into hosting costs and logistics of selling mp3’s before that can happen.

Thanks everyone, feel free to offer thoughts or suggestions on the above. I firmly believe based on the comments I have some of the best readers of any porn blog out there, and really appreciate having you all on board.

V.

October 7, 2010

PSA

Posted in notes tagged at 12:45 am by littlesubmissions

Hey all. I’m taking some time off from this blog, mainly to figure out what I want to do with it. Initially, I started it thinking I’d put some stories up, build up a (massive and huge, naturally) readership, and then write a book and make obscene amounts of money while modestly riding an ever greater surge of fame and celebrity.

At this point, my reader stats justify my writing a book, and buying a value meal with the profits if I can find a really good coupon and there’s a “Leave a penny take a penny” dish.

So thank you all for reading, I may continue putting stories up later, but for now consider this blog on hiatus.

Ciao.
Vague

Addendum:

For context, since this blog was started in 2008 (I did a couple of very small posts in 2007) I’ve had 51,909 visits. Average about 58 a day, give or take a dozen. Maybe I’m misreading this, but my understanding is that to start talking money you’re looking at the thousands a day mark. If I’m actually rocking the internet tubes, let me know, and I’d be happy to be wrong. 🙂

September 19, 2010

PSA

Posted in notes tagged , at 7:46 pm by littlesubmissions

To whoever found this blog by searching for “she took revenge on his testicles”, I hope you found whatever you were looking for.

May 24, 2010

Rope and stuff

Posted in notes, Uncategorized tagged at 2:42 am by littlesubmissions

For those of you who simply cannot get enough of me, I recommend a topical ointment. Or something. But I have also been entering Graydancer’s rope giveaway with the following bits of doggerel. You should enter as well. Chance for free rope, yo.

http://www.graydancer.com/more-cream/

http://www.graydancer.com/all-i-needed-to-know-about-rope-bondage/

http://www.graydancer.com/the-twisted-monk-ropecast-giveaway/#comments

That last one is in the comments.

Vague

February 1, 2010

Posted in notes tagged at 11:36 pm by littlesubmissions

Reblogged from Lolita Wolf, you can make a tax deductible donation to the Leather Archives’ Museum Women’s Leather History Project.

Because we got a history too, yo.

http://www.leatherarchives.org/wlhp/

December 16, 2009

PSA

Posted in notes at 2:13 am by littlesubmissions

GRUE’s are good times, especially for people who might be, err, slightly petrified by the idea of the whole full on convention experience.

Not that that would be me of course.

And the people who hit the big cons regularly spoke highly of the GRUE experience as well.

I was at Chicago, but another one is coming up in San Diego.

For those of you wondering just what the hell I’m talking about, here are the particulars:

http://www.graydancer.com/the-care-feeding-of-a-grue/

For those of you who found this while looking for a zork game… I can’t help you. But the GRUE would probably be a lot more fun than playing zork if you could make it.

Seriously, good times.

July 1, 2008

A Brief Note

Posted in notes tagged at 10:21 pm by littlesubmissions

As much as one hates to sound one’s own trumpet, I thought I would mention that awhile back I had a short story published in dead tree form.

Coin Operated, in the K is for Kinky Anthology edited by the always charming Alison Tyler.

Link

We now return you to your regularly scheduled internet.